Don't get me wrong: this is not a clarion call neither am I asking you to bite more than could be chewed. Foremost, allow me to express my fears:I know that a lot of ladies may disagree with me but I believe that at some point and place in their hearts they will come to terms with the veracity of this quest for men to 'help' them in their social and emotional life. I call it "giving our ladies a little attention so that no one would have been left untouched". Do make sure your mind doesn't travel wide and wild in as the need to just reach out and touch them. Our fine babes are fast fading and loosing their svelte novelty and fineness. As a matter of fact they are soon finding it difficult to compete with the unsullied and newly bred under-sixteen chicks. The mamas are also strappingly shielding and wedging barricade on the possible trespasser, the husband snatchers. (Office secretaries, house maids and even that female best friend)

Alas! I agree with my pastor friend who said to me that twenty and one ladies soon will come chasing after one guy. This sounds like an awoof but it isn't. He led me to that part of the scripture to back his point (Isaiah 4 verse 1). My confession is that that part of the bible interests me so much that I vehemently vote for it to be printed in the largest font size available. Our pastors and imams should preach on this as regularly as possible so as to keep reminding us of the need to give 'moral and spiritual' support to our babes. They need it and we can offer it... Stop there! If you felt like traveling, use conduct and not condom.

I know quite a number of ladies who will be enthusiastic to go out with any guy as long as it will boost their arrogance and enhance their self-image. I kept imaging the human race devoid of guys like us; the good ones I mean, it really would have been horrifying.

Do you happen to perceive the sound of serious panic in the women's camp? The story is usually not very exciting when another woman is kicked into this soon-to-fall-apart kingdom. Very sadly they express their disappointment, their spirits fall down and the ebbs are very low.

In Anambra State most especially and even in other part of our native zones, masculinity is well celebrated, a man who does not have a male child to take after him is regarded as an incomplete man; they say that for the sake of tradition, authority and generational identity, a male has to be given birth to else another male –fruitful woman will be called upon. Can you imagine that? Imagine another woman jumping at the call to service; I would have thought that for the sake of addressing the abuse and heavy misuse given to womanhood, other women will utterly refuse and object: saying no to that man and further fight for the right of the woman

Try not to assume that I am a chauvinist because I know I am not. I am a crusader in the fight for the babes because I believe that they play a very significant role in seeing to it that the world is over populated. We need this population for the sake of our irrational choices and varieties.

Back here at home I try not to allow that tradition impede on my rhythm of thought but my acquaintance with the folklore has constantly interfered with my philosophy and my unbiased impression. Our culture has reflected an evident sentiment on this theme and a large margin of preference given to the male child. In Naija land the tradition of our fathers and even our mothers are supportive to this predisposition for over acceptance of the male child.

However, I have seen ladies try to fight their way unto acceptance by picking up jobs and positions that should have been male-oriented. They assume topmost status in world class companies, but in spite of this they are still short of that total acceptance. The guy will always gain the upper hand, I guess our ladies should know that God made it that way and no amount of effort will give them that status even if they go for a scientific sex change.

When the Nigerian version of the suffragettes and other women's right organizations went with guns and knifes, shooting from the hips, fighting MTN on an advert they placed on the electronic media for having given too much emphasis on the sex of the baby (the Mama na boy advert), it caused war and serious upset and it got the attention they needed. It made the guys to again know that some ladies are dealing with that element of complex; committing to intelligence that our immediate society gives attention to masculinity. It may appear those women's organization won that case by making sure that that advert was thrown out of media libraries. However, I insist that they still need to win the battle in their various homes and in the heart of our customary mortal which exist in every Naija home.

Sorry I digressed. Have you ever eavesdropped on the conversation of ladies or in their groups? Your guess may be as good as mine. They will only talk about guys and guys and guys.It's obvious that you don't need to be macho to gain respect. Just be a man and be happy being address as one.