Patricia Daboh contributes articles to Nigerians In America and Nigerian Muse and can be reached through her email address here.
I want you to understand that if you have not met your Nigerian fiancé in person, DO NOT waste your time and money… you will be denied.
I am Patricia Machele Daboh, and I wrote and submitted two articles entitled, Nigeria Is Beautiful To Me and Rejected For Loving A Nigerian Man on Nigerians In America. You can access that website at www.nigeriansinamerica.com. As a result of that article, women, who are engaged to Nigerian men and want to fly to Nigeria to get married, have asked me questions ranging from purchasing a passport, visa, shots needed, purchasing the airplane ticket, the wedding ceremony, and filing the necessary paperwork in order to bring their Nigerian husbands back to their country. I am by no means an expert on this subject, but one thing I have that these women lack is “the experience of the Immigration process”. Matter fact, we are still going through that process. At this point, my husband’s visa-issuing paperwork has been sent to the
IMPORTANT INFORMATION
Before I begin, I want you to understand (with 100% clarity) that if you have not met your Nigerian fiancé in person (meaning you met him over the internet or by some other means and have not physically been in his presence) DO NOT waste your time and money by filing an I129F Petition For Fiance, for you will be denied. That petition allows your fiancé the privilege of coming to your country, but one stipulation, which they will adhere to, is that you must first have met your fiancé within two years prior to filing the fiancé petition. How do I know that? My husband and I tried it (without my having met him), and we were denied. The cost of the I129F Petition For Fiance is $170.00, and you will not get that money back when you are denied. The Immigration does approve some of those petitions if you have not met your fiancé in person, but those are circumstances where perhaps his cultural custom does not allow you two to meet prior to the wedding day (that was stated in my denial letter). If that is not your case, do not waste your money. The cost to appeal your petition, once denied, is $385.00, but why try to appeal the decision when your circumstances does not warrant an overturn in your situation. We learned that the hard way. You do not have to learn this lesson the hard way, for I am writing this to help you avoid that!
TRAVEL DOCUMENTS
I wanted to talk about the travel documents you will need first because many of these documents are time sensitive, meaning you MUST have these documents and forms way in advance of your planned trip, or you may not be eligible to travel during the time period you desire.
At the time I was planning to meet, my then fiancé, and travel to
I recommend this website highly, for it fully explains every piece of document you need to travel. Traveling to meet and marry my husband was my first airplane ride and the first time I flew out of the country. So if I, an inexperienced flyer, can get it right the first time, so can you. I will give you the short version of that information. You need the following:
PASSPORT – There is a time frame in processing a passport, so you should purchase one well in advance of your expected travel date. I went to our main post office branch in the town where I lived and got an application. At our post office, I had to make an appointment to do the actual processing of the passport, but you should pick up your application prior to your appointment and have the application filled out. The cost for your passport is on the application, so you can refer to that for the cost.
PASSPORT IMPORTANT INFORMATION - If you already have a passport, you must have at least 6 months travel time left on it before it expires, or you cannot use that one.
PASSPORT PICTURES – You will need 2 passport pictures to submit with your passport during your appointment. But, it was cheaper for me to get my passport pictures taken somewhere else and bring my pictures with me. The post office has equipment set up to take your passport pictures, but it is usually a little more costly. For example, the post office charged $15.00 for 2 passport pictures, and I had them taken somewhere else for $7.99 for 2 passport pictures. Make sure you choose the RIGHT background color for the passport application (read the color requirements on the passport application before taking the picture).
YELLOW FEVER VACCINATION – In order to enter into
VISA – You MUST also purchase a Visa in order to enter into
Apply for and receive your passport first, for you must send the passport to Travel Document Systems, Inc. in order for them to put your Visa sticker on one of your pages in your passport.
Send your original birth certificate with your visa application and passport. They will return it when they send your passport back to you with the visa attached to one of the pages.
Send your International Certificate of Vaccination (what you receive after you take your Yellow Fever Vaccination) along with your application and passport.
Send them a Letter of Invitation from your fiancé (he has to write it, sign and date it). The letter invites you to come to
You must send Travel Document Systems, Inc. a copy (not original tickets) of your round trip airplane ticket or an itinerary from the Travel Agency who booked your flight. This will show you intend to go back to your country after your visit.
Do not forget to include your visa application, passport, Yellow Fever Vaccination Certificate, original birth certificate (not a copy), fee, and invitation letter (if needed ) when mailing your documents to the Travel Document Systems, Inc.
You can purchase a visa for single or multiple entries. If you need it expedited (processed quickly), there is an additional fee for that.
If you have any questions prior to sending in your documents to process your visa, please call them, for you do not want your visa to be denied or delayed.
IMPORTANT NOTES ABOUT TRAVEL DOCUMENTS
It is totally your responsibility to have all of your REQUIRED documents on you to enter into
Make at least 2 copies of your passport and International Certificate of Vaccination (your visa will be on one of your passport pages, so if you copy your entire passport, it will be copied also).
Give a copy of your passport and International Certificate of Vaccination to two reliable people. If you lose your passport, or it is stolen while you are in
The phone number to Travel Documents Systems, Inc. is 1-800-424-8472 (toll free) or (202) 638-3800 (direct number)
THE WEDDING
A friend of mine told me about a woman that flew to a country to marry her fiancé. The couple had no pictures taken, no official documentation proving that they were married, and it took three years (yes, shockingly 3-years) to get her husband back to her country.
After hearing that story, my husband and I decided that we would not let that happen to us, and we do MORE THAN WAS REQUIRED OR ASKED FOR in order to prove and validate that our wedding was legal. Some of what I am going to tell you is not required, but again I say, we did MORE THAN WAS REQUIRED in order for Immigration not to ask us for even one more piece of paper to make a decision on our petitions. Therefore, we did this when we were married:
We were married at the Marriage Registry in Apapa,
A couple must undergo marriage counseling prior to the ceremony, and when we did that, it gave us a legal paper trail of what we had done.
The Marriage Registry gives you a Marriage Certificate, Witness Books (thumb prints of your witnesses in your Witness Books), and it is also a very strong legal paper trail of what you have done
My husband hired a person to videotape our wedding
My husband hired a person to take multiple photographs of our wedding
We had two witnesses at our wedding (my husband’s niece and my husband’s best friend, who was his best man)
We asked my husband’s niece to sign a SWORN AFFIDAVIT that she witnessed the wedding. We also had some of our wedding pictures stamped and swore in along with our Sworn Affidavit to make the pictures legal documents of the court. The Sworn Affidavit was registered in the High Court of Lagos, stamped, and given back to me to include in my paperwork for when I would came back home and filled out the petitions to bring my husband and stepson to the states. My husband secured the services of his lawyer to assist us with the Sworn Affidavit, and he processed this for us (for a fee of course).
We opened up a joint savings bank account with both our names on it to prove that as a married couple we have assets together in
NOTE: The things above were done to make sure that Immigration did not come back and question the legality of our wedding, for the Marriage Certificate, Witness Books, Sworn Affidavit, photographs, and savings account strengthen our position as having a legal and valid marriage. We were prayerful and determined that it would not take us three years (as was the case in the other woman’s situation) for my husband and stepson to get approved. And, thank God, he blessed us in that respect!
G-325A BIOGRAPHIC INFORMATION FORM
Before going to
I130 IMMIGRANT PETITION FOR RELATIVE, FIANCE (E), OR ORPHAN
In researching the quickest way to get my husband over to the
FIRST, I filed the I130 Petition, and as soon as I received the I-797C, Notice of Action (which is a notification from the USCIS Office letting you know they received your petition and how it is being handled), I made a copy of the I-797C Notice of Action and included it in my I129F Petition that I filed next. Please do not delay filing them back-to-back, for if you do, it will take longer in getting your husband approved.
Now, let’s back up here somewhat. The I130 Petition is the first petition you should file when you return home. If you have ordered the petitions (I130 and I129F) prior to leaving for
Important note: Make sure they have your husband’s name spelled correctly on the aI-797C Notice of Action. If they do not, contact them immediately, so this can be corrected. You do not want problems later when his visa-issuing papers are sent to the Lagos Nigeria Embassy, and his name does not match the paperwork sent.
I129F PETITION FOR FIANCE (E)
Immediately after you receive the I-797C, Notice of Action, letting you know that your I130 Petition has been received, make a COPY of the I-797C, Notice of Action. You will include it in your I129F Petition for Fiancé (e). If you DO NOT include the I-797C, Notice of Action, the immigration process will not be sped up on your behalf. IT IS A REQUIREMENT THAT YOU FILE BOTH THE I130 AND I129F PETIIONS. AND WHEN YOU SEND IN YOUR I129F PETITON, YOU MUST SEND A COPY OF THE I-797C, NOTICE OF ACTTION FROM THE I130 PETITON. Do not forget to include the G-325A Biographic Information form with this petition!
As was said about the I130 Petition, you should already have ordered the petition before you went to Nigeria, and therefore, you can file the petition as soon as you receive your I-797C, Notice of Action from the I130 Petition. Do not delay doing this! The cost to file the I129F Petition is $170.00.
Make sure you send the I129F Petition to the right location. The directions say if you filed an I130 Petition and are also filing an I129F Petition, then you must send it to a particular location.
For example: I mailed my I130 Petition to the USCIS Texas Service Center, P.O. Box 850919, Mesquite, Texas, 75185-0919. I live in
NEXT, I mailed my I129 Petition to USCIS,
On March 15, 2007, the
On April 24, 2007, I received an I-797C, Notice of Action informing me that my I130 Petition was APPROVED for my husband (stepson included). On April 25, 2007, I received an I-797C, Notice of Action informing me that my I129F Petition was APPROVED for my husband (stepson included), and the dates of the I129F Petition will be valid from April 25, 2007 to August 24, 2007.
So it took from January 19, 2007 (the date when I mailed my first petition) until April 25, 2007 to receive APPROVAL NOTICES for both petitions (3 months and 6 days)! God is good!
I was told that the visa-issuing papers were being sent to the Lagos Nigerian Embassy for my husband.
NOTE: Even though your husband’s visa-issuing paperwork will be sent to the Lagos Nigerian Embassy by the
The
On June 11, 2007, I received a letter from the
After my Processing Fee is put in their system, the
Please note that you cannot apply for federal means-tested public benefits to assist you in taking caring for your husband and/or his children. That means you cannot apply for food stamps, Medicaid, Supplemental Security Income (SSI), Temporary Assistance for Needy Families (TANF), and the State Child Health Insurance Program (SCHIP). That also includes any state means-tested public benefits, which vary from state to state.
So in other words, you must be financially sound in order to bring a husband to the
After you send in your Processing Fee, you can get your financial documents together, so there will be no delay in sending in these forms.
CHOICE OF AGENT AND ADDRESS FORM
When the
BE WISE
If you do not have a good paying job or do not meet the I-864P Poverty Guidelines (see 2007 guidelines), now will be the time to seek other employment. You do not want your husband approved to come to the
CONCLUSION
As I said at the beginning, my husband and I are not finished with the Immigration process, and I still have more to share with you as our experience unfolds. But, I wanted to share our experience with you, so you can have an idea of what you will face when you marry a Nigerian citizen and desire to bring him into the