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Lost in a Sea of Hair Weaves
- By Molara Wood
- Published 11/21/2005
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Molara Wood
Writer, freelance journalist and sometimes, a poet, MW has lived and studied in Nigeria and the UK. She has lived in the 3 Ls in fact - Lagos, London and Los Angeles - more life spent in the first 2, than the third. Her writings have appeared in a number of publications. She writes on a broad range of the Arts, mainly for The Guardian on Sunday, Lagos, Nigeria. Visit her blog.
View all articles by Molara WoodDuring the eighties, songstress Anita Baker sashayed memorably through the video of her song Sweet Love. Clad in a simple black dress, she exuded a sultry womanliness that could teach the barely dressed pop tarts of today a thing or two.
In an interview back then, Ms. Baker was asked if she had a message for black women. She did have a message, one which she thought could be controversial, but which she was convinced needed to be said. Baker wanted black women to take pride in their natural hair. According to her, if you had hair down to your waist, great - and if you didn’t, that was wonderful too. The diva, who always wore her hair in a classy short back and sides cut, was expressing concern at black womanhood’s obsession with long, European-looking hair - nearly always bought in a shop.
Another hair indictment from the eighties came in a song by a man. Alexander O’Neal’s Fake goes:
"Your hair was long / But now it’s short / You say: ‘I got it cut’ / But I don’t see no hair on the floor /... You’re a fake, baby!"
In spite of this, and Anita Baker’s best efforts, the fake brigade marched on, till the black woman’s hair suffered a follicular colonisation. By the nineties, every Sarah, Sade and Nkem was walking around with multi-hued and multi-layered wigs. Added to sew-on, glue-on hair weaves of every texture imaginable - and black hair became shackled, never to see the light of day again.
One can understand some black women wearing wigs for the same reasons that some white women do; because they are losing or have lost their hair. One can even make allowances for wigs being worn for the occasional change of look. But how to explain young women with full heads of hair who will never be seen dead with their natural hair? Or those who will never admit that the fake hair on their head is exactly that? Thanks to these attitudes, the fake hair industry has grown so big that the revenue generated from it yearly is enough to sustain the economies of several small countries.
The term ‘human hair’ always conjured in my mind the image of some poor Indian woman having her hair sheared off like sheep to satisfy our insatiable desire for long, straight hair. One remains uncertain about how the ‘100% human hair’ in the shops is derived, but the image of the poor Indian woman refuses to leave the mind. Increasingly, what we are seeing is a cradle to the grave attitude to false hair. All around, we see everyone, even children, faked up in false hair. When a girl of six or nine is already sporting hair weaves, how is such a child ever going to grow up with any pride in her God-given tresses?
And the fact of the matter is, not all hair extensions look nice. Quite often at social gatherings, a lady will discreetly scratch her head and the whole hair will betray her and move like a swaying bridge from side to side. How embarrassing. Or even more bafflingly, some people will walk around with the seams of their weaves showing, like some hideous zipper. Then there are those with hair weaves so ragged, so matted, that they look flea-infested. And one cannot help but think: "Surely, your own hair must be better than this monstrosity?"
Music stars are among the most visible black women on earth, and they have not helped. Golden-voiced Whitney Houston looks ragged these days. Strung out on the twin addictions of drugs and Bobby Brown, she is but a shadow of her former self. But on the cover of her debut album two decades ago, Whitney posed with hair slicked back and looked more like a beautiful African Princess than a singing star. Clive Davis, boss of Arista Records and architect of Houston’s meteoric rise, was unhappy with the look. He felt it was too ethnic to be sold to white America. And so Whitney was ‘whitened up’ and with her second album came blonde weaves. I doubt that we have seen the singer’s real hair since then.
In an interview some
At least Whitney told the truth. This is more than can be said for Janet Jackson. She has no qualms about baring her breast, but her hair, it seems, is locked up and the key thrown away. It is debatable whether we’ve seen Janet’s hair since she appeared as a fresh-faced teenager in the television sitcom, Diff’rent Strokes. Like Whitney, Somalian model Iman also admitted faking it, saying of her hair: "It’s mine. I paid for it." But this fabulous flippancy is wearing thin.
Lauryn Hill is considered to have gone a bit loopy these days. This is sad. It wasn’t such a long time ago that the atrociously gifted Lauryn came out - boldly ethnic - with The Fugees. And with her groundbreaking solo debut, The Miseducation of Lauryn Hill, she inspired a whole new generation of black women and female artistes; spawning a batch of natural-haired singing stars like Jill Scott and India Arie. Lauryn is contemptuous of hair weaves and sang on one track, Doo Wop (That Thing):
"Look how you be in hair weaves like Europeans."
Lauryn showed that a black woman does not have to compromise on her looks to be beautiful. So powerful was ‘the Lauryn effect’ that even Whitney Houston bought into the act. Although white Americans helped Whitney notch up millions of record sales, her ‘street cred’ in Black America was next to nil. With her career on the wane, Whitney sought to show African Americans she had been a good, ‘down home’ girl all along. She made the statement with the chart-busting single, My Love Is Your Love, written and produced for her by none other than Wyclef Jean, one third of The Fugees and by some accounts, Lauryn Hill’s one time lover. Whitney completed her ‘Lauryn’ transformation with her ‘homegirl’ look in the My Love Is Your Love video, also featuring Wyclef. But Whitney’s ‘Lauryn’ phase didn’t last; her heart was never in it.
Looking beyond Lauryn Hill, Erykah Badu is another fine example. When her flowing dreadlocks were revealed to be extensions, she shaved them all off and sported a bald look for a long time, saying defiantly: "This hair don’t make me." Does your weave make you? Which is greater, your weave or you?
Perhaps one mega celebrity that cannot be faulted is Oprah Winfrey who wears her own hair, and does so beautifully. On the very rare occasions when she wears extensions, she tells the whole world it’s a weave.
During the 60s when the slogan "black is beautifu" was all the rage, the great South African singer, Miriam Makeba, was one of those who embodied the spirit of the times, for refusing to straighten her hair. "I see other black women imitate my style, which is no style at all, but just letting your hair be itself," she once said. Black is still beautiful, and Makeba who is now in her seventies, still wears her hair as she always did - natural.
Closer to home, Nigerian singer Onyeka Onwenu’s hair is remarkable. She wears her natural short cut with its slash of grey in front with such confidence and panache, it has become her signature. Body enhancement entrepreneur, Modupe Ozolua, wore a very low cut some time ago and was outstanding. But most of our female celebrities, sadly, are lost in a sea of hair weaves.
There is a need to reject the tyranny which dictates that the black woman should be defined according to European standards of beauty. Year-long hair weave is one such tyranny. And where does it end? Hair that must never be seen; or eyes whose brownness must be mitigated by blue contact lenses, or green, or hazel?
There is a need to go back to basics, and make peace with our natural hair.
"Emancipate yourself from mental slavery / None but ourselves can free our minds," sang Bob Marley in Redemption Song. It would seem that, for black women, this freeing of the mind needs to begin with our hair.
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127 Responses to "Lost in a Sea of Hair Weaves" 
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said this on 22 Nov 2005 2:14:46 AM EDT
although am not a woman but i still enjoyed it, irrespective of the fact that i wouldn't like my wife looking like grace jones.
But if you argue that women putting on artificial hair is a slavery thing then what about the white people that embraced tatooing which was an african insignia what about the general breast enlargement/reduction or the age defying face lift that both the black,asian,hispanic and white take part in i think women are synonymous with fashion and they like to update their style frequently whether it's better or not. All i know is that the white folks will forever be looking down on us if all our black sisters continue wearing these false hairs,nails and pupil. Girl you need to talk to my own sisters.
...obiora.
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said this on 12 May 2008 10:55:24 PM EDT
I love articles and videos that delve into weave issue. I love women that wear their hair natural. I'll tell a 'sista' in a heartbeat, 'now you know that is not your hair! you only wish that you had hair that long and that texture.' Women such as Tyra, Beyonce and so forth aren't helping either. Young women of color admire them, idolize them-you name it and yet, they would rather wear blond weaves. What is a black woman doing with blond dye, or a blond weave? That doesn't even begin to make sense. Here's this sad black male right here, 'i wouldn't like my wife looking like grace jones'-then you don't sincerely love your wife! your 'love' is conditional; it's base solely on surface level. Sir, your marriage will not last long. Any relationship/marriage that is based on physical only, does not last. If your wife came out looking like Grace Jones, what would be the problem? Guys like you, I just want to spit on.
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said this on 22 Nov 2005 2:09:40 PM EDT
I loved this article. I have a natural hairstyle and I love it. I thought your article was very inspiring and thought-provoking. I will share this with my hair weaved friends!!!
mrskenna
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said this on 23 Nov 2005 12:46:52 PM EDT
I think all this criticism over black hair is much to do about nothing. A woman that wears a weave is not necessarily trying to be European. Anita Baker is shown as an example of a woman who takes pride in natural hair. Hello excuse me, but relaxing your hair is not natural. The author should define what she means by natural. Hair that is relaxed, texturized, or colored is not natural and thats the truth
She says When a girl of six or nine is already sporting hair weaves, how is such a child ever going to grow up with any pride in her God-given tresses I think perms, relaxers and dies can do just as much damage to a young girls appreciation of her hair as a weave can.
Lets consider the women who came before us. I remember that some of my aunts (In Nigeria) use to plait their hair with thread AND add filler to it. To me, adding filler to plaited hair is akin to braiding your hair with kenakolon.
For me, its all about versatility. Black women have different options with the way they can wear their hair. And I dont think we should be ashamed of that. Rather, I would say that we should be more educated on how to take care of hair as we adopt different styles.
Currently (and for the past 2 years) I wear my hair natural no relaxer, no textuizer, no nothing. Its 1 inch of black forest Sometimes I think I look like Steve Harvey. Its not the most attractive thing in the world. But I wear it like this for one reason it affords me more time to attend to my family. That is the only reason I sport my hair like this. Now, my husband hates my hair like this. He says it makes me look like a man. But he also doesnt like braids. You see sometimes you just cant please everybody .. so you gotta please yourself.
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said this on 12 May 2008 10:59:14 PM EDT
what your hubby wants to see you with is a texture that isn't yours. I bet it if your hair was permed, he'd love you. I bet if you had a weave, he'd love it! You women better start learning to get to know the man that you're with. 'is he with me for me, or is he with me for surface level only?'
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said this on 23 Nov 2005 3:05:53 PM EDT
Newsflash! White women (and white men) buy hair attachments. They are big customers in the stores that sell customized "fake" hair. I know a few white women that have been interlocking their hair for years. So why is it such a big deal when black women do it
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said this on 24 Nov 2005 3:11:36 AM EDT
For god's sake, choose life first, let people have their vanity if it makes them sane. Let there be 'Tolerance', love yourself, love all. Bob Marley also sang "One love".
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said this on 24 Nov 2005 5:44:56 AM EDT
Mmmm... Anita Baker did say it would be 'controversial', didn't she 'Cos she knew people would not want to hear this truth. And I can already see what Ms.Wood calls 'the Fake Brigade' fighting back. Interesting.
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said this on 26 Nov 2005 12:37:31 AM EDT
Keep telling it like it is!
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said this on 27 Nov 2005 12:06:36 AM EDT
I think women should wear their hair as they please...But I must say that the cost of these weaves and fake hair are exorbitant! That alone would make me not do it. And to start teaching your little girl to spend big to make yourself look 'pretty' is a no-no JMHO
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said this on 27 Nov 2005 5:15:53 AM EDT
While this article is the opinion of some does not make it right nor wrong. It is simply one's opinion. Personally, I suffer from Sickle Cell Disease which has taken a toll on my natural hair. I have a couple of choices, wear my hair natural which is very broken out or opt for a wig or weave. I choose to wear a weave because it enhances my self-esteem which has been somewhat altered due too an uncontrollable circumstance.
Just a thought, you never know what a person's reasons are for different things they do but give it more thought before you choose to criticize them.
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said this on 27 Nov 2005 10:27:47 PM EDT
While most of what you the author wrote is true about weaves and weave wearers, it was one sided because it focused on African Americans only. And that was in a negative light only. I would have like the author to write about African woman wearing their hair straight and the high usage of BELACHING CREAM among native african woman. Tell the WHOLE story!
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said this on 29 Nov 2005 6:00:16 AM EDT
i'm with u sista!!!
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said this on 30 Nov 2005 4:44:59 PM EDT
This commentary reminds of a few young friends of mine, teenagers in fact. I live in a part of American where blacks are quite rare. So I had to give a few lessons on why the African's skin is dark (melanin production) and the reason for the texture of the hair. They were intrigued because one boy said to me and i Paraphrase, now I know why when I wrestle with James (who is black and in an opposing wrestling team) i get red and raw from grabbing his hair!
We are constantly looking for ways to manage black hair, weaves, wigs, attachments (braids)...just as we are intrigued with euro-hair, caucasians are intrigued with ours. I have a number of white friends that just die of envy when I braid my hair.
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said this on 02 Dec 2005 8:23:29 AM EDT
Very good article. I personally think the most beautiful women in the world are black women with natural, unrelaxed afros or natural, unrelaxed dreadlocks. One thing that makes seeing natural hair so exciting is that seeing it is so rare (on females), even here in New York City or New Jersey. Most of the time sistas have boring, ugly, relaxed hair. They take the beauty in their own genes for granted! My own sisters, my mother all relax their hair. What a shame. As a young man I make a rule not even to date women with relaxed hair. Personally I'm a US born Nigerian with a medium-sized fro, and I like that. More woman should boycott the colonized hair mentality by wearing it natural. I'd imagine a lot of black men would come to dig this a lot. It IS political, the choice most black women make for their hairstyles, excluding cases of baldness, etc.
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said this on 02 Dec 2005 9:34:37 AM EDT
Well, It's all good for women to flaunt their natural hair and all, however it is really time consuming, expensive and sometime damaging to continue pulling, tugging, relaxing, braiding, weaving and all the ingings on our natural hair. Most of the times it difficult to find a trustworthy salon for ones hair. To be honest, I am not into the natural hair thingy. Yesooo, I am proud of my natural black hair but there is no way I am willing to spend 3 or more hours of my life going through the rigours of making it look presentable. My hair is Natural all the way (I do not relax my hair and never have) but there is not much I can do with shoulder length natural hair without looking like a newly deranged woman parading 'Ahiaeke'. I give kudos to thoes that have no qualms with relaxing their hair or thoes who spend up to 6 hours braiding their hair and then keep it for months without weekly washing. Anyhow, I enjoy Wigs, I love wigs, I swear by wigs! All I have to do is slip one on my head and I look good. Besides there are a massive variety of them so one can never go wrong and if you buy them in Nigeria you are bound to save a fortune. When I wear my wigs, I feel confident and I look cool and people don't really know the difference (Not that I care if they do notice the difference!). Wigs are very economical and easy to handle and ones does not need a hair dresser. I am the proud owner of at least 15 different wigs and counting. They serve me well and I look different with every wig and they only cost 1500 Naira each (Nairaooooo not pounds or dollars). in the words of Mcdonalds, I'm loving it!
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said this on 07 Dec 2005 3:28:43 AM EDT
Excellent and so perfectly stated. Black women are addicted to hair weaves, and not for reasons of versatility of style or protecting one's real hair. Their negative attitude towards their hair can be seen with the labels 'good and bad' hair and 'nappy' hair. Or even, the Black hair product labels of obtaining 'shiny and silky' hair when Black hair is more fluffy with a soft sheen than shiny and silky. Well researched. Elegantly written.
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said this on 12 Dec 2005 5:02:12 PM EDT
A word in time for the black ladies of this generation. Value what you have. If you don't know, a man will appreciate your being natural and not otherwise. Men know what they are looking for!
Adewale Ajani
mikeajani@gmail.com
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said this on 18 Dec 2005 10:19:29 AM EDT
This article is wonderful. Thank you so much for breaking it down...although it was sad to see individuals reference looking like Grace Jones as a bad thing.
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said this on 23 Dec 2005 4:24:33 AM EDT
All whom agrees with this article should consider women with alopecia, dermatitis ,and balding , hair weaves and wigs should not be a issue if the world says a woman is not a woman just because she dose not have what should she do sport her baldness or should she buy a wig like how I have to do I would be a fool to sport my hair medical problem and show it to the world if I will be shund for bald/balding so watch the way you feel about something because you never know when the day will come when even you (The Author of this Article) will be looking over the counter at you local hair store trying to buy weave to cover up a spot or not Even you it may be your child or someone you love.... You never know until you have walk in someone else's shoes. DSA/CDM
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said this on 10 Jan 2006 12:03:46 AM EDT
I Feel That More Articles like this Should be distributed among young African- American females. I have to admit being 15 years old during this times, I often seem to get caught up with my looks, especially my hair. Society made us believe that straight and long hair is the most accepted and most beautiful. But that becomes such a struggle for black women to keep up with it, because our hair is of course beautiful, but just not textured as perfectly straight. Basically, I feel that I still have more confidence and acceptance to gain within myself, But I know if i continue to read and understand articles like this I will surely be on my way to being so confident with myself that all negative energy will just bounce right off of me.
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said this on 11 Jan 2006 5:48:43 PM EDT
I'm not being difficult but I know exactly who I am and where I come from. My hairstyle does not say that I aspire to be European. Life is about making choices for the right reasons. Suggesting that hairstyle choice is what gives you pride in your herutage is just plain ridiculous. What has Erykah Badu evr done besides sport fake dreads to show pride in the African heritage that she made her fortune off of How many hiv positive orphans in Africa has she sponsored Because in my opinion she owes them. She became famous by bastardizing and attempting to exploit their culture.
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said this on 12 Jan 2006 4:26:13 PM EDT
I dont see any wrong with fakin it as the article implies.....Some of us do not have the right hair care professionsl who encourage or embraces that notion. They all ways want to "slap" in a relaxer in a minute , and swear they have no clue what is a straight comb for that simple press and curl. Everybody entitled to their opinion, I feel like the supermodel Iman says," It's mine I paid for it, theme. Honey I know that I am black , I wake every morning knowing that, weaves and colored contacts are a accessories to me, options if you will. Life is too short , if I want to have a weave down my waist, why ist it hurting you and I am having fun. Isnt want life should be!
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said this on 20 Jan 2006 1:17:50 PM EDT
I can understand that this is your opinonated editorial, because it is viewed differently. I say, if you paid for it, you buy it because if you get tired on one style your natural hair has carried for years, you will eventually need a change. The hair weave is a good way to change up a style than to just look very plain. It has worked for me, and if my hair (it has almost grown to my back, as a result) gets waist-length, I will never ditch it.
Your views are respected, but look at it as a need by people who have a dilemma keeping their styles updated and "Good enough to take to Chinatown" (as Fred Sanford would say) with. Busy people, stuff like that.
And, how about the cancer/leukemia patients--women, especially--who had just taken chemotherapy? The chemotherapy sheds all their natural hair off, and God knows how long it takes to grow back. I know I wouldn't be one of those people walking around with just my bald head.
When you mentioned Erykah Badu's shaving of her locks, saying that it didn't make her. Sure, that was in her own opinion. Hair makes us, in our own way. It is our crown of glory. I say if there's something wrong with the look, enhance. I would go more into detail but I just decided to make it as generally brief as I can.
So, no offense, I hope. This is the way of the American spread.
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said this on 21 Jan 2006 1:45:58 PM EDT
I don't see weaves as a big deal @ all. I have them sewn in sometimes... not that often, but I really don't care. If some1 asks me if it's real, I will gladly say no. It's all about options 4 me. I can wear a wig, braid my hair, sew in a weave, or just carry my hair like that... wat difference does it make? It's d same thing as wearing perfume... everyone knows thats not my natural smell. It's like wearing makeup... so abeg, una dey yarn too much jare.
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said this on 08 Apr 2008 7:56:07 AM EDT
My Naija sister, You're so funny...I like your humour. people should let others do to ther hair as they please, and focus their anger and energy on other important issues. Life is too short to worry about whether I weave or not
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said this on 22 Jan 2006 1:43:25 PM EDT
Who's business is it that someone wears a weave or not, when did it become a fact that for someone to truly display their "african-heritage" or "black-ness" they had to carry "nappy-hair". for your information alot of us africans naturally have nice long "non-nappy" hair, so tell me are we less african because we were born like that. My mom is cape-verdean and my dad is nigeria, (both african countries) and because of this I am dark with nice long black hair (all mine!). I frequently have people ask me if my hair is real or not, I don't get offended because who cares!!! is it your hair?? it's a shame that we africans and blacks have not embraced the diversity amongst us, it's a shame that we have to have one particular picture of what is means to be black. if you have ur natural hair, fine that's ur business but don't try to convince other that that is "African" or "black". black people come in different colors, sizes and hair textures and we must embrace it! Stop discriminating because u see nkem with long black and automatically it has to be a weave! okay now it's a weave na wetin concern you? abeg write about the fact that the AIDS epidemic is wiping out the black race faster than the speed of light, instead of one long rubbish article about "weave-hunt". again "NAPPY does not equate what it means to be BLACK"
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said this on 01 Feb 2006 6:01:19 PM EDT
I thank my lucky stars that there is such things as hair weaves. My
daughter suffers from alopecia areata, at the age of 15 she has more than 50 percent hair loss. Her options are wigs or hair weaves.
While the products are costly,it is a price I am willing to pay for her to maintain self-esteem and confidence during such a trying time.
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said this on 02 Feb 2006 4:02:11 PM EDT
I don't believe it matters one way or the other weither you wear weaves or natural hair, the source of true beauty still resides from within!
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said this on 03 Feb 2006 7:39:46 AM EDT
Okay...so of course I see where you're coming from, but I also believe in freedom of choice. And I've found that it has become an unfortunate stereotype that all women who wear weaves are part of said "Fake Brigade". Why have options if in choosing one you are immediatly judged as being fake?? If a woman wants her hair a certain way, does it have to mean that she is ashamed of her natural hair. Maybe she just wants it that way...it really is beyond me why this needs to be such a big deal. I mean, if this is an argument about loving our "natural" selves then all other cosmetic factors should be attacked too. Dont wear eyeliner - because it means you dont love the way your eyes look naturally. I mean, come on...it's a bit of an incomplete argument. And as another reader pointed out, not only black women are guilty of it. Many black celebrities are mentioned in the article but many white celebrities popularly use extensions too. Britney Spears, Jessica Simpson, and Victoria Bekham to name a few. Their indusrty is as wide and lucrative as is that for extensions for black women. I just really think that it's not always about being ashamed your ethnicity although granted in some cases there is insecurity underlying the reason to get extensions. However, in many, many cases women get extensions not necessarily for length but for volume...just like many women buy volumising/lengthening mascara. It's all the same. The beauty of being a woman I believe, is the power of our preoragative to decide how we want to wear our hair, do our makeup, make our bodies look. We have all the options and the choices are for us to make for ourselves. I don't think that we should have to subject other women to judgements or stereotypes that they are being enslaved by the need to lookn different. Why don't we instead view it as a celebration of freedom...freedom to choose. And within that freedom, we have a responsibility to protect one another's freedom by not condemning the choices others make that may not necessarily reconcile with our personal choices. I make these comments as someone who doesn't wear weaves, but I do have my hair braided with extensions because I prefer the fulness. I wont say that I've been blessed with long hair because that would be insinuating that people with short hair aren't blessed. But...I personally have never had any issues witht he length of my hair, but maybe one day I'll want to try out hair down to my ass and I dont want to have to read articles like this that make me seem like a traitor to who I am simply because I have taken a choice which is available to me. Similarly, I feel very hurt for those friends I have who do wear weaves because that's their style, their look...how they prefer to wear their hair and yet are made to feel guilty about it. I have the same issue with women who are condemned for cosmetic surgery, but that I suppose is a whole different story. With kind regards...
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said this on 04 Feb 2006 12:28:22 AM EDT
Why does it all come down to fake and not? We all have free will to do as we please. Let's remember that black women who want straight styles have the option to permanently relax their curly hair just as european women have the option to permanently curl their straight hair. There is so much publicity over artists like Lil' Kim (who I dislike personally but that's beside the point) and why she has blonde hair, boob job and contacts to look like Pamela Anderson. Let's remember that Pamela Anderson is not a blonde either, and she wears extensions to add fullness to her hair.
This whole idea of being "true" to yourself and going natural and embracing your heritage is fake. It's false. No one is telling black women not to eat pizza because it's not being true to their heritage. No one is saying that we shouldn't wear pumps because our ancestors didn't.
The 'Sea of Weave' I think became a way to perpetuate self-loathing in black women. We are told that we're too rough around the edges, we have too much baggage, we're too shapely, our lips too full, our hair too natural. When we start competing with European styles, all of a sudden, we're not being true to our 'natural blackness'. I don't have to be true to what I am. And no one defines what I am or how I should be except me.
This whole idea of fake vs real is not really the heart of the issue. A bad weave is a bad weave. In the 60's while some women wore afros, others wore wigs as was common with Diana Ross and the Supremes let's not forget. Butt-long ponytails and big beehives were the order of the day.
Our flair is our hair, and we can weave it, bead it, perm it, rock the locks, shake our twists and go super-short just to start over again. IT'S JUST HAIR! No one is saying that white men aren't being true to their natural selves when they wear toupees. Let it go people. Let's talk about women getting equal wages in the workplace. THAT'S something to spend some time debating:)
Peace and Love...
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said this on 06 Feb 2006 6:58:03 AM EDT
I dont see anything wrong with wearing weaves , its not limited to the African woman alone,every fashionable woman who loves the vasatility and ease of wear needs a weave or wig. we grew up seeing our mums in plaited hair with threads(whats the difference? threads or wefted threads), which was conceived to liberated women way back , so they dont look mad every 20 mins from not setting an alarm clock for comb time reminders,when their hair knot up into dred locks that quickly.The only down side is the shedding, I hate the sight of strands arround leaving an unwanted tell tale sighs of your prescence.
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said this on 07 Feb 2006 7:30:02 AM EDT
I must say how disappointed I am at the level of personal abuse directed at the writer over a subject that is up for legitimate public discussion. The vitriolic remarks may mean that people think the debate over hair weaves is enough already. It is not. I am also amazed at the level of denial by many of the commentators. People keep citing emotive instances like Cancer or Alopecia. BUT the article already makes allowances for these, specifically with words of understanding for: women who have lost or are losing their hair. It even makes room for the occasional change of look. But what I see people doing here is pretending as if by writing against hair weaves, the author has attacked people with unfortunate circumstances where weaves are needed to cover hair loss. That is not what the article is about. Bottom line is: except in small cases, 99% of those who cannot live without weaves have no medical conditions that affect their hair. Get real people. I write this as someone who occasionally wears weaves, and who still sees some sense in what this article is saying. I don't think the writer has attacked me personally nor has she been callous about people with any kind of medical problems. I think we should discuss issues surrounding fake hair more often, instead of shouting down anyone who dares to utter a contrary opinion. I would like to commend all those who have kept their comments civil, and also commend the writer of this article for her courage. SN
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said this on 08 Feb 2006 3:27:31 PM EDT
i am a young african girl who live in france.
what your article describes is so real and so terrible but even in africa women done wear their natural hair.
We are slave of a picture that slavery and colonisation have left: we are shame of our original appearance
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said this on 12 Feb 2006 12:22:43 AM EDT
Didn't like it. Why should some stranger care about what's on my head? It's no one's business what I do to my head. I've made peace with my hair. However, I am a scientist and run 12 miles a week. There is no place in my life for a natural. Personally, I like the way my weave looks and that's all that matters. There are far more important things to worry about in the world than who is wearing a weave.
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said this on 16 Feb 2006 3:32:13 PM EDT
To be black is not reflected in one's appearance or how they act. Being Black just is. My hair is natrually wavy but kinky and I CHOSE to relax my hair b/c it looks better and easier to handle. Its softer, shinier and I take good care of it. Go to longhaircareforum.com and you'll see. My hair is all mine and down past my elbows. Whether or not black women have weaves doenst matter to me. Black women are evolving,..people are evolving. Its not 1950 its 2006. The real problem is the lack of information by the mass media of how to properly take care of black hair natural or not. This can drive most women to weaves b/c there really is not many avenues to find proper hair care advvice or products. When did the responsiblity of being true black was up to the black woman?? Some(but not all) Black men alike relax,color and wear contacts, and even abandon the black woman altogether. I wont even go there. Black people as a whole are the most creative, versitile beings on the earth. Let the image of the Black Woman rest b/c music videos, media ect. are always bashing the black woman. Let us rest already. Can someone write articles why brunettes and most white women go blonde? Oh its o.k for them to chose what they want to do just not black women.
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said this on 17 Feb 2006 1:08:35 PM EDT
This article was well written. It speaks only the truth. When we ever see Janet's hair?
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said this on 17 Feb 2006 6:36:14 PM EDT
I thought the author had a great point. I don't live in Nigeria, but I watch a Nigerian movies at least 6 timeas a month and I laugh at how pathetic the looks are, but we have a long way to go and only God will help us!
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said this on 26 Feb 2006 1:43:20 PM EDT
So many truth in this article ! bravo sista !
I am natural myself (locs) but most of my black friends hate my natural hair(but i love my nappy hair and that is what counts!)so are so right about the weaves that most of our people are wearing it makes me wonder why they hate their natural hair so much.
Meg
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said this on 13 Mar 2006 8:16:26 AM EDT
Don't be fooled. Where did you get the impression that Oprah doesn't wear weaves? She does, she just has an impeccable hair stylist. When you're serviced by the best, no one knows your secret.
I used to be an avid fan of hair weaves but dandruff and heat have taught me a lesson or two. I am more comfortable in my own hair than I would be in fake hair. The only other fake I employ is cornrows but all the same beauty is how you perceive it.
Just my three cents..
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